What is Romance? Having a million love affairs!

Why bother falling in love with just one person when you could have love affairs with the whole existence? Let’s take a look at what is romance and what being a true romantic means.
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Why bother falling in love with just one person when you could have love affairs with the whole existence? Let’s take a look at what is romance and what being a true romantic means.

Sadhguru: Unfortunately, people have brought romance down to only a young male and female. Why just the neighborhood girl? The neighborhood girl has become magnified in your eyes because your intelligence has been hijacked by your hormones. If it wasn’t, the whole universe and every piece of creation is worth involvement, isn't it? That’s what is romance. It is a very deep involvement.

What is romance – A deeper look

The whole problem of constantly seeing people for their gender is something that has to go from the world.

Right now in this world, it has become like this: if you utter the word “relationship” it has to be man-woman. They may not always be man-woman, but even if it is otherwise, people play the roles of man-woman. So essentially, what you call a relationship nowadays is just the involvement of two bodies.

But just a few decades ago, if you said, "I have a relationship," it meant much more. People had relationships with their mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, friends… but today we have reduced our social discourse to such a level that if we say “relationship,” it must be a hormone-fired relationship.

The whole problem of constantly seeing people for their gender is something that has to go from the world. Why can't you just look at human beings as they are? Why is it that you have to say “This is a woman, this is a man?” That is only needed for one type of relationship. There is no need to recognize and identify people for their body parts every moment in your life. If you must identify them by body parts, at least let's choose the brain, not the reproductive organs.

A million love affairs

It’s quite common to find people today going about saying, “Love is the core of the universe.” Love is not the core of the universe. Believe me, love is just a human emotion. It’s a human need that two human beings can fulfill for each other. It is a certain sweetness of your emotion that you call as love. Unfortunately, most human beings are able to give that sweetness of emotion only to one person who will provide some physical satisfaction for them. Otherwise they cannot open up. It is time we understand that we can have very profound relationships without having anything to do with the physical body.

I am deeply involved, engaged and have love affairs with millions of people. I don't know whether they reciprocate or not. I don't know whether they like me or not, but I have a fabulous love affair with just about everyone that I see and cannot see, because for me, love is not about them. Love is about how I am within myself.

 

 

 
 
 
 
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5 years 9 months ago

What sadhguru shared is true love never discriminate and seek expectation. Why limiting our love toward individual but try to expand human well being as well.

6 years 9 months ago

Hhajajahahahahahahhahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaa

5 years 4 months ago

Lescud , you are cool!!! You say what you feel .. this openness will take you long.. Sadhguru will be with you always when you are true to yourself... Many people can judge you but one being will liberate you !!!

6 years 9 months ago

What an Insight about love and romance!!! Thank you Sadhguru.In your hands,is the,gen next Safest.

6 years 8 months ago

To understand the article first you need to identify yourself..

5 years ago

What Sadhguru is saying, is way beyond your full-of-rubbish mind. First, clean all the shit out of your mind. Otherwise how else would you experience something truly fragrant, gentle and aesthetic?

6 years 9 months ago

Great message from sadhgurus

6 years 6 months ago

I think i'ts a very sensible way of living. We do not see ourselves in our mind's eye in terms of gender. We see ourselves as a person, don't we? When we experience life's deepest experiences, do we see ourselves through the prism of gender? Men and women are united by their common humanity. Our biology is only one aspect of our self.
I've never thought of myself as primarily a woman, I think of myself as a person, a human being. I think it applies to most people on the spiritual path.

5 years ago

Om Bhaktavatsalaya Namaha ,Om Bhavaya Namaha I bow down

6 years 9 months ago

its, its , its simply awesome.. rightly said.. no words for comments except the feeling of awe after reading this in valentine's day !!!!!!

4 years 2 months ago

You miss the point.you are free to love an ant just as much as your family. If you don't, that's all right too. I do like the point you make about hormones though.

6 years 9 months ago

What a load of rubbish! I do not love an ant as much as I love my family. Period! Hormones are there for a reason - let's not confuse and obfuscate people by pretending otherwise. Sorry Sadguru, but this is not very well written...

6 years 4 months ago

hehehe, obviously this teaching is one that doesn't sit well with most, it takes a certain perception and detachment. I am in a relationship with someone, yet I find this post rings with so much truth.

4 years 2 months ago

Great message from sadhgurus

6 years 9 months ago

What wonderful message on valentine's day from Sudhguru.

5 years 9 months ago

Love All.. Love Thyself :)

4 years 2 months ago

Sadhguru, is Love also a dimension like time and space?

6 years 9 months ago

I bow down to you.

5 years 9 months ago

Lescud, have you ever been in love or loved and lost...and then loved again and lost again.. and then again. if you ever did you might have had a chance to notice that you keep on loving the next person in your life insanely..not because the next person is better than the previous. its because of the quality of love in you. fortunately in my life i stumbled upon this experience of understanding that the love I had for anybody was what I had inside me and it was my quality. And this quality as Sadhguru points out is and cab become infinite if you become more and more aware.

3 years 11 months ago

That's what Sadguru is not talking about hormonal love it is the love towards life,Which is permanent & unconditional (nirpeksha ). He is talking about the love for creators creation & creator also (sukshma) . Forget that temporary period of hormone(which is there for temporary reason) & it's attack!

6 years 9 months ago

amazing eyeopening message from Sadhguru.I truely bow down to your insight.

5 years 9 months ago

Really you think this way? Then this article certainly reflects the meaning, "Guru" Our physical egos are very sticky, they won't go so easily. Sadhguru has symbolically expressed this in the poem "Island"

For me everything just works this way: When a Being so much more intelligent and intense is saying something and also happens to be my Guru, I give no alternative. Then it is just so simple: An ant also truly becomes so lovable.

3 years 11 months ago

If you love only one, its not love, its attraction, its a business transaction which will last as long as other fulfils your expectation or as long as your hormones are active, but its not true love..

"If you can love everybody why only love just one"..

I hope one day i can embrace true unconditional and infinite love like sadhguru..Thank you for showing true love..

6 years 9 months ago

love is
indeed something very mysterious and we have different views about it and
people express it in different ways. let us not argue about this for like
each of us Sadhguru has his own point of view on it. Let us just enjoy this
day of romance.

5 years 9 months ago

Pranams, Sadhguru! No words to thank you for including an idiot like me into Isha...dont think I can ever express how I feel within for what is being showered on me... "In love with millions"...who can ever dispute that about you.?....Is an idiot like me ever capable of any reciprocation ever in the first place...thanks for making me realize that I am silly and extremely stupid...what I have gained in the last 3 years after Isha happened to me cant me compared to anything that I have ever experienced....Namaskarams....Namaskarams.

6 years 9 months ago

So uplifting ..!!

5 years 9 months ago

I would agree with you, if this article has been written by someone who is solely intellectualizing what he is read. But this is Sadguru and the article is consistent with core of his teachings i.e in my view, to transcend the triviality of existing solely by body and mind identification.

I do not love an ant as much as my family, true. But i love my dog, girlfriend and pet rabbit as much... Why this partiality or false distinction? It is obviously a problem with our minds and it’s identifications.

This article will seem absurd to all those at the start of the journey.

6 years 9 months ago

Very well clear, to look romance this way! Old age will come and we will ask where the romance go.......