Love is All about You

Sadhguru dispels the fanciful notions on love and clarifies the mechanics of love.

Sadhguru: There is a lot of emotion attached to the subject of love and lots of fanciful things have been said about it, but I would like to bring it down to the mechanics of love. For example, people are saying, “God loves you,” but does anybody really know whether God loves or not? Love is a human emotion. Human beings are capable of love when they are willing. But unfortunately, we want to export everything that is beautiful in our life to heaven and live wantonly on this planet. Love, joy, blissfulness – all these are human possibilities. So let us not talk about divine love; let us talk about human love.

Generally, when hormones hijack your intelligence, people think they have fallen in love –that is one aspect. When you say “me,” “myself,” what is it that you are referring to? One thing is your physical body, another thing is your mind – the way you think, yet another thing is your emotion – the way you feel, and the energy which drives the other three things. This is what you are calling as “me.” When this “me” feels pleasant on different levels, we call it by different names. If your emotions become very pleasant, we call it love.

Love is not something that you do. Love is something that you are.

Love is just one aspect of life. We have given so much importance to it simply because for a long time, in most people emotion has been the strongest part. Even today, though people consider themselves intellectual, still emotion is the strongest part in most of them – not their intellect, their body, or their energy. So making that pleasant is very important. Otherwise, it will find unpleasant expressions. If you are feeling very pleasant, suddenly you become like a flower. When somebody is in love, if you look at their faces, suddenly they look like a flower because they are feeling so pleasant within themselves. Whoever you are in love with, they may not even be aware of it – it does not matter. You are in love, that’s all that matters. It is your emotion. It is the way you are.

Love is not something that you do. Love is something that you are. Either you can use somebody as a support to make yourself loving or you can simply become loving. After all, it is not somebody else’s quality, it is your quality. You are using the other person as a key to open this up. But you can also open it up from inside without the help of the other person. Then it is definitely more enduring because when you open it with the other person’s help – nobody on this planet is 100% reliable.

If you are trying to extract joy, love and pleasantness out of somebody, this is going to be disastrous for both the people. I am not saying it is better to live alone. I am saying the way you are should be determined by you. If this is so and you are here to share your love with people, if you are feeling wonderful and you want to share this with somebody, then it will be very beautiful.

Editor's Note: Sadhguru shares the keys to forming lasting and joyful relationships, whether they are with husband or wife, family and friends, with colleagues at work or with the very existence itself in this ebook, "Compulsiveness to Consciousness."

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4 years 5 months ago

Wow. One of the best posts I've read! Thank you. Wish I read this and really understood this about 20 years ago. ;)

7 years 10 months ago

So true. Emotions keep us into motions, so if we keep emotions pleasant our motions are also pleasant. Thank you great sadhguru.

4 years 4 months ago

What is your views on One sided Love. Will wait for a blog on one such topic.

7 years 10 months ago

I would like the Sadhguru to make a further revelation as to what happens at the energy level in respect to cosmic connection when one is in the state of loving. Or how one's energy system is changed/affected?

3 years 4 months ago

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7 years 9 months ago

Yes, Love is what I am

7 years 8 months ago

This is a very uplifting read indeed. Love is something that this world will always need. Thank you Sadhguru.

7 years 8 months ago

one can live without love doing their duties,even emotinal love.

6 years 8 months ago

Thanks Sadhguru.

6 years 8 months ago


6 years 8 months ago

me too

5 years 9 months ago

Sadhguru then do you know me ?

5 years 9 months ago

if it is all about oneself, How come that we intensely in love with some and with some so-so. Yes love can happen many times and has impact in many dimensions... all the times it is not the same. It is an extraordinary feeling that is co-created exclusively between two beings! it triggers creativity and manifestation!