It Doesn't Pay to be Depressed - An Insight into Depression

Have you been depressed lately for reasons you cannot fathom? Or is a loved one depressed and you find yourself unable to help them out? Sadhguru's insight into depression might give you the answers you have been looking for.
 
 

Have you been depressed lately for reasons you cannot fathom? Or is a loved one depressed and you find yourself unable to help them out? Sadhguru's insight into depression might give you the answers you have been looking for.

Why Depression?

Sadhguru: I am saying this, not without any concern for your illness, or due to lack of compassion, but because this is the nature of what is happening to you. If you are causing depression to yourself, it means you are able to generate a substantial amount of intense emotions and thoughts, but in the wrong direction. If you don’t have very strong emotions or very intense thoughts about something, you cannot get depressed. It is just that you are generating thoughts and emotions that work against you, not for you. So you are strong enough to cause depression to yourself.

Most of the depressions are self-created. A few people are pathologically ill, they cannot help it. It just comes from within because of genetic and other factors. But almost everybody else can be driven to madness, because the line between sanity and insanity is quite thin. People keep pushing it. You get angry, you are pushing the line. In fact, you know you are pushing the line. That’s why the expression, “I was mad at somebody.” Please see, you are not mad at somebody, you are just going mad. You cannot be mad “at somebody”. You are just pushing the boundaries of sanity and moving into insanity for a certain period of time and coming back.

If you are causing depression to yourself, it means you are able to generate a substantial amount of intense emotions and thoughts, but in the wrong direction.

Why don’t you try this every day? 10 minutes a day, try intense anger on somebody. You will see that in 3 months time, you will be clinically there. Yes? Just try it if you want. Because if you keep pushing the line, if you go mad and you come back repeatedly, one day you  will not able to come back at all. That is when you are termed clinically ill. You must understand even if you got clinically ill for a moment, you are already ill. Maybe you don’t get the certificate of diagnosis that you are gone. But, you are "going", isn’t it. You think it is your right to throw tantrums? You think it is your right to get angry with people? You think it is your privilege to get depressed so that you will get attention from somebody? If you keep playing this, one day you will not be able to turn back. That day, you will need a doctor.

Depression Seeks Attention

You have incentives in your life to become ill. Right from your childhood, you got the maximum attention only when you fell ill. When you were happy, they screamed at you. When you squealed in joy, they screamed back at you, the adults. When you were down, then they did “boo-boo, boo-boo". When you were a child, physical illness was good because you would get attention from your mother, father and everybody around you. You didn't have to go to school on that day. So you learnt the art of falling physically ill. But once you get married, you learnt the art of getting mentally ill.  If you want to get attention, you go sit in a corner, act depressed. People will pay attention to you. So, you keep playing this game, and one day you are not able to cross the line back. That day, you are clinically ill.

Set Incentives for Health, not Sickness

Unfortunately, in many different ways, I would say 70% of illnesses on the planet are self-created. Even in the case of infections, if you keep yourself in a certain way physically and mentally, the virus and the bacteria will not work the same way as it works upon somebody else. It is possible, if you set yourself up in such a way that no matter what’s happening, anyway I have to go do my work without a break. The last 29 years I have not cancelled a single program because I was running a temperature, I got a cold, I got this, I got that. It doesn't matter what’s happening, what you have to do, you anyway have to do. You can’t turn back on that. If  this happens, you will see that you will not at all fall sick very often.  For every change in weather, if you have the comfort of covering yourself in a blanket and lying down, once you create that, your body will learn to fall sick as often as possible. If you just keep it this way – it doesn’t matter what it is, anyway I have to go and do what I have to do - you will see your body will just bounce back as quickly as possible, even if it gets the worst kind of infection.

Mentally, physiologically, chemically, energy-wise, you must clearly understand, it doesn’t pay to be sick, unhappy or depressed – it just doesn’t pay. To be joyful and ecstatic, it pays.

So you just have to set the necessary conditions, the necessary incentives for health, both for yourself and for your children if you have them. Do not set incentives for sickness. If a child is sick, observe him from a distance, never go cuddling. He knows that’s the worst time of his life, but he will also know that he has to get well soon. Instead, give him the best attention when he is joyful. You will see he will naturally learn from within, his very chemistry will learn that it pays to be joyful; it doesn’t pay to be sick. If you make this clear to your own biological and chemical process , and to the people around you, you will see people will not fall sick as often as they  do right now.

So set that up for yourself and you will get healthy. If you turn your mind this way, you can also turn your mind that way. “No, no I’m like this because my father abused me when I was 7 years of age,” if you know all that bullshit, you can as well turn yourself around, isn’t it? It’s time. You must understand. Mentally, physiologically, chemically, energy-wise, you must clearly understand, it doesn’t pay to be sick, unhappy or depressed – it just doesn’t pay. To be joyful and ecstatic, it pays. If you make this clear to all these people inside you, they will all behave properly.

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3 years 11 months ago

What it means by all those ppl inside you?!?

5 years 9 months ago

Why Misery - Sadhguru - YouTube watch this video..it might be helpful..

3 years 4 months ago

Amazing helpful video for all. Thanks Sadhguru

5 years 9 months ago

SO wht to do if we are not able to forget our past??...wht to do if past memories keep on moing in your head....u keep on remembering those moments which you knw will never come back....but still hope is there....should we just suppress the feeling...or is there any other INTELLIGENT way to handle it??...plzz do guide....

5 years 8 months ago

anticipation gives depression.when i do something good and people choose to be selfish it pains a hell lot.But as sadhguru said "love as if u have no other choice".....people who hurt eventually come back as they are left with no other choice but to love back.This one week was a hell of a depressed week for me...thought it was due to global warming!!!chest and throat gets choked.....or is it because i spend too much time on the net.......!!!

5 years 9 months ago

I was definitely taught to be sick or depressed as a way to gain attention. I also think that it there is a real propensity for it in my family. I would suffer with terrible seasonal depression that was at its worst in November every year. It would be accompanied by stomach disorders and weight loss. Many things got me out of it. I recognized my self-destructive habits and forced myself to have better habits. I recognized how it was a means to manipulate others, and simply grew out of it. When I started practicing yoga is when I really seemed to change. Now depression is rare, and usually a reaction to a life event. With women, I think it is important not to make sure your hormone levels are healthy, too.

5 years 8 months ago

Testing Post

2 years 8 months ago

I have social anxiety/phobia so stress is natural for me. He should do a talk on that- not just to help smokers, or whatever else.

5 years 9 months ago

I am impressed with guruji's speech....it is absolutely true when I think practically.but guruji...I have many things in my past which are influencing my present ,though I try very hard to forget and be normal with the people who r the root cause of my unforgettable hurting past,Iam not able to do this.everytime I spend time with them ,Iam forced to remember my past with their present actions and behaviour as they haven't changed a bit yet...I know guruji that u may feel Iam insane,but is there any solution for this ?pls help me guruji...

5 years 8 months ago

Suffering is necessary until u realize it is unnecessary.......... If U had not suffered as you have, there would be no depth to you as a human being, no humility, no compassion.......

(These are d lines xtracted from book STILLNESS SPEAKS, by Eckhart Tolle, author of 'The power of now', I read this book recently, I would recommend You to read this book, hopefully, this should help U)

Karma yoga is the crutch for a spiritual person.......Read the below article too, very nice abt karma yoga.....

http://blog.ishafoundation.org...

and The video - Pain of ignorance by Sadhguru, following is the link......

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v...

5 years 9 months ago

I'm exactly as Sadhguru mentioned here. Whatever my health situation is I'll get done what needs to get done. Secondly I'm against pampering kids and was paying less attention when my wife and kids were sick or being depressed but it has been misunderstood by my wife that I'm a callous being with a rock heart and have no emotions. So how do one deal with a partner like that who is always emotional and looks for attention and feel crippled when attention is not paid?

5 years 8 months ago

in the world where we live in today, depression seems to be something common and this is disheartening because being alive is already something to be joyful about nonetheless i think this could be also because of the lack of having the ability to see joy in small things. like Sadhguru puts it, it is about setting your mind--stay optimistic.

5 years 9 months ago

"If you turn your mind this way, you can also turn your mind that way.
“No, no I’m like this because my father abused me when I was 7 years of
age,” if you know all that bullshit, you can as well turn yourself
around, isn’t it? It’s time."
Many people use their story as a kind of excuse to stay the way that they are because it becomes convenient in an unconscious way to get sympathy or small benefits. It can be hard to come out of it yourself. I personally felt much more relieved and unburdened after doing BSP. I used to experience a lot of shame and guilt, which sometimes let to an occasional bout of depression. Now I feel emotionally freed up from a lot of that baggage. Living away from familiar situations can help with that too!

5 years 7 months ago

I learnt isha kriya through online video on this site and started doing it on Jan 22nd 2013. I have been on medication, now reducing the dosage. I was diagnoised as a Bipolar disorder patient once in 2001, once in 2007 and now. But today I feel I am completely well. Now on any meditation will only take me towards optimal experience of life as the energy neednt be used for curing depression. I am so much more inspired by reading this article. Thank you. Would like to meet Sadhguru once in life. :)
Attention seeking part, my own experience was a bit different. As my husband gave a lot of attention to me when I was joyful and when I was miserable, I was very grateful to him and this helped me to be disciplined and perform isha kriya regularly so that i would get well soon.
Thanks and Regards
Aparna

5 years 9 months ago

I have seen children suffering,
in the families where the home-maker was in depression. So for my special child's sake I get motivated regularly and do yoga to be free from depression. Shedding ego is another easy way to get out of depression. Pranams Sadhguru.

3 years 11 months ago

Planning soul soup to place Sadhguru with in, shambho I bow down

5 years 9 months ago

mindblowing.... just right in front of face , straight to the point with compassion !!!!

3 years 11 months ago

Its like Sadhguru just addressed a 1000 issues in one go.. The most powerful thing I have read coming from Sadhguru in a long time.

5 years 9 months ago

why is pampering wrong? With love can we not cure everything?

3 years 11 months ago

what i feel its not sufficient to leave them alone to heal... atleast u need to encourage them that yes u can do it.. u can do it urself... make them feel that u want them to be healthy & happy as well as independent...
It should work i guesss....

5 years 9 months ago

It's not about right or wrong. If you really love somebody, would you want them to be strong or weak? that is the question. If we pamper our spouse / kids particularly when they are depressed / sick, it would always make them weaker and attention seeking personalities. We should do things to take care of them and help them out quickly. But that does not mean that we have to pamper them over attention which will not help in the long run.

3 years 11 months ago

there are no suffering... they are only moments with learning attached...

5 years 9 months ago

request you to watch this video, this might helpful Why Misery - Sadhguru - YouTube