Fear of Failure
Whatever situations arise in life, Sadhguru says, one can choose to use them and make himself stronger and better, or he can sit and cry. For one who sees his life as a stepping stone to a larger possibility, there is no such thing as failure.
Sadhguru: For one who is u… who is seeing this life as a stepping stone for a larger possibility, for him there is no failure. For one who is looking at the simple events of this life itself as the goal of life, for him there is failure and success. If you are just seeing this life as a stepping stone for a larger possibility, if you have a good deal you use that for your well-being; if you have a bad deal you use that for your well-being. The economy was on the boon when every fool could be successful; you know, didn’t take much. When the economy is on the boon everybody gets carried, isn't it? Now there has been a meltdown. Now it takes something else to be successful. So when the economy was on the boom you could have brought a certain dispassion towards the money that’s flowing in. Now the economy is down the taps are all closed up. It's time to come, meditate, walk in the mountains; (Participants Laugh) there is lot of time. (Participants clap) There is lot of time on your hands, isn't it? When there was money it took away your time and life. Now the taps are closed; lots of time; this is the time. So it doesn’t matter what the hell happens; it doesn’t matter what the hell happens with your life, if you are seeing this life only as a stepping stone for a larger possibility then whatever the situation i t is beautiful and very useful; very very useful.
Once there was a farmer like you (Laughs) who was tired of various natural factors ruling his… the quality of his crop. So one day he called Shiva. It was a wild card entry. (Participants Laugh) So he found access and Shiva said, ‘What?’ He said, ‘I am tired of all the natural nonsense happening; obviously you are not a farmer. I know from history that you were a hunter. You were not a farmer. (Laughs) You don't know what it means to farm. Why don’t you leave the nature in my hands? I am a farmer. I know when it should rain; I know when there should be sunlight; I know when there should be wind; I know what, everything. You don't know because you are just a hunter and you are a crazy ascetic. You definitely not a good farmer. The wrong times it's raining; at wrong times things are happening; you leave it to me.’ Shiva was one of those moods, he said, ‘Okay, nature is in your hands.’ Then the farmer planned his crop; planted a maize crop. (Snaps) ‘Rain.’ (Gestures) Poke the land and see, ‘Okay it's soaked up to six inches,’ ‘Stop.’ (Gestures) Then plough it, planted, wait for two days, ‘Rain.’ (Gestures) Hum ‘Sunlight.’ Today I’m working in the field, ‘Cloud.’ (Participants Laugh) So everything just happened the way he wanted, a beautiful maize crop came. He was overjoyed. ‘See, it's good; nature should be in farmer’s hands.’ And then when the time to harvest came he wanted to see because none of the birds were coming; he was surprised because that also he said, ‘No birds.’ - No birds. Then he went and opened and saw nice big everything but he opened and saw - no grain inside. Then he thought ‘What the hell is this? What did I do wrong?’ Then he couldn’t figure out because rain, water, sunshine, everything he managed properly. Then again he went back to Shiva but he was in this condition. (Gestures) He waited for many years for him to open his eyes. By the time his… you know, these many years the fields and the family, everything went to.., (Gestures) but he wanted to know the answer, what went wrong? He is farmer first. Then when Shiva opened his eyes; he asked, ‘I did everything right but there is no grain. Did you sabotage my crop?’ Shiva said, ‘I have been watching; you were doing…you were in-charge so I didn’t want to interfere. The rain was great, the sunshine was great, everything was fine but you stopped all the winds. I used to always send fierce winds which would threaten your crop but because the plants felt pushed and threatened they put their roots deeper into the earth, so grain happened. Now you have great maize crop, no maize.’
So various situations in your life either you can use it to make yourself stronger and better or you can sit and cry. This is the choice you have. Everything; it doesn’t matter what happens; the most horrific event happened in your life - that also can be used for your growth and your well-being if only if you have clearly seen the small events of your life… When I say small events I mean your business, your marriage, your children - all those big things. (Laughs) All these things are just a stepping stone. This is not new to you because in this culture they put this into you for centuries, for millenniums, they told you, ‘Your life is about mukthi. Your marriage, your business, your social life - these are all just means to get there. Either you go with it or you go without it… but whether you are a sanyasi or you are in the samsara your only goal is mukthi.’ Yes? The goal was not just for the sanyasi; for everybody it is mukthi. If you walk alone you walk alone. You want party going with you, you walk with the party. That’s your choice. You want to get there quick, you walk alone. You want to go there having picnic on the way, slowly, you go with people. Choice is yours but the important thing is whatever the hell you are doing there is only one goal. So if you have set this up then all the events of life, everything is beneficial. The boom is beneficial; the meltdown is even more than beneficial actually. It is also ecologically very good, you know, the meltdown? No? (Laughs)
So the fear of failure… failure is bad enough; fear is adding spice to it, isn't it? (Laughs) Success happens to you not because you desire it, because you earn it. Everybody desires it. it comes only if you are capable isn't it?