Love Entangles, Compassion Liberates
Sadhguru on the differences between love, passion and compassion, and on moving from conspiracy to inclusion.
Generally, your love is fueled by passion. Compassion means an all-encompassing passion. When it is exclusive, we call it passion. When it becomes all-inclusive, it becomes compassion. Love initially starts with a certain liking, so it is dependent upon someone or something being good – to you, of course. You are always counting on the goodness of something or someone. Or in other words, the emotion gets limited. Only if the person whom you love is good, you can continue to love them. If they turn out to be whatever you think is bad, you cannot love them.
The advantage of compassion is if somebody is very bad, in a pathetic condition or in an evil mood, you can have more compassion for him or her. Compassion does not limit you. It does not make a distinction between good and bad. So compassion is definitely a more liberating emotion than love.
Love is generally about somebody. It can be beautiful, but it is very exclusive. If two lovers sit together, the rest of the world is excluded from them. They have created their own artificial world of togetherness. Basically, it is like a conspiracy. You always enjoy your conspiracy, because in conspiracy you become special – no one else knows about it. Usually, for most people, the joy of love is just this conspiracy.
They fall in love, they enjoy it very much, but when they get married, it is declared to the world. Suddenly, all the fancy stuff goes out of it because it is no longer a conspiracy. Everyone knows about it.
This conspiracy angle to love creates a lot of pressure for people. If you exclude the rest of existence from your experience, it will lead to suffering. If it starts as passion and ends as passion, you are asking for lots of trouble in your life – it will be entangling. If it starts as passion and expands into unbounded compassion, that can be liberating.