Questioner: How do I decide which path is best for me? What is your advice on making that decision?
There is no such thing as “the best”. The biggest mistake people make is that they want to choose that which is the best. Whether it is your career, marriage, spiritual choices, ultimate choices – there is no best thing to do in your life. If you put your everything into what you choose to do, it becomes a great thing. You should have something great going, not the best, because the best is in comparison with something else. Right now, I am feeling great, not because this is the best day or the best place in the universe. There is no such thing. But if you put yourself into it, it is a great place.
If you put your everything into what you choose to do, it becomes a great thing. You should have something great going, not the best, because the best is in comparison with something else.
Drop this idea of choosing the best thing or finding the best person for you in your life. There is no such person in the universe. The moment you compare and ask if this is the best one, or if something else would be better, you will always be confused. Even when you are being buried, you will wonder if you are in the best coffin. What if you wanted a mahogany coffin but they chose something else? Even there, you will twist and turn, because you have lived life in comparison.
When it comes to the spiritual process, you have to decide if you want to go with your judgment, or if you think it is better to leave it to me. If you place it in my hands, I take care of the decision as to what works best for you right now. If you choose, you will choose what is most comfortable for you. It may not necessarily produce results, or it may be an unnecessarily long route. I am not interested in your comfort. I want you to get there, because your time and energy are limited. If you do not put it on an express mode, you will wander around and get lost.
But I will tell you what will work best for you only if you leave the decision to me. Otherwise, I will never impose my judgment on anyone and tell them what they should do in their lives. Only if you are one hundred percent sure that even if I ask you to go to hell, you will, and at the same time, you have the trust that I definitely do not want you to go to hell, will I make the decision for you. But if there is a possibility that halfway down, you start having doubts, I will not take up the decision.
If you prefer wandering around, that is up to you. I am not someone who is planning lifetimes. I want things to happen to people in this life. If you are thinking about making it in many lifetimes, there are ways to evolve slowly. There is nothing wrong with that, but I am not that patient, because this is my final round – that is for sure.
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