The Hideous and the Beautiful
During his wedding with Parvati, Shiva revealed two forms – one grotesque, and one incredibly handsome.
Sadhguru: When the king of the Himalayas announced his daughter Parvati’s marriage, everyone who was anyone in the region arrived for the big wedding. It is a tradition in India for the groom to come on horseback, all bedecked, showing off jewelry and wealth. But here Shiva came, eyeballs rolled up, fully inebriated, wearing the hide of a freshly slain elephant, dripping with blood, smeared in ash from head to toe, dreadlocked, looking quite hideous. And his retinue were his friends, the ganas, none of whom had a human form and who spoke in a language that sounded like utter cacophony.
Everyone looked at this in utter shock. “Is this the princess’ bridegroom?” Parvati’s mother, Meena, asked her, “Is this the man?” She said, “Yes, he is my Lord.” Meena fainted. When she came awake, she held Parvati and said, “Spare me this one thing! Do not marry this man. I will take my life if you do this.”
Then Parvati went to Shiva and pleaded with him, “You have shown me different forms that you are capable of. I have no issue with the way you are. After the wedding is over, I will live with you as you are. But for this wedding alone, for my mother’s sake, please come in a beautiful form.” Shiva shook himself down from his inebriation and transformed himself into what is today referred to as Sundaramurti or Sundaresha. He became a resplendent manifestation of masculinity. He stood bedecked in the most fragrant flowers, the most beautiful man you can think of. Her mother was completely smitten with this man, and then they sat down for the wedding.