A Limitless Romance
Sadhguru: Let’s understand the word romance. Romance is a very deep involvement. I am definitely a romantic, an absolute romantic. I’m romancing the whole universe. Why shouldn’t I?
Unfortunately, people have brought romance down to only a young male and female. Why just the neighborhood girl? The neighborhood girl has become magnified in your eyes because your intelligence has been hijacked by your hormones. If it wasn’t, the whole universe and every piece of creation is worth involvement. If you pay enough attention you will see something as small as an ant is a phenomenal creature. If you pay enough attention, you cannot help being a romantic. To wonder and be involved with just everything around you is a natural process for human intelligence. But sometimes it gets hijacked by hormones.
Going Beyond Body-Based Relationships
Right now in this world it has become like this – if you utter the word relationship it has to be man-woman. Essentially what you call a relationship has become just the involvement of two bodies. Just a few decades ago if you said, “I have a relationship,” it meant much more. People had relationships with their mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, friends, but today we have reduced our social discourse to such a level that if we say a relationship, it must be a hormone-fired relationship.
It is time we understand that we can have very profound relationships without having anything to do with the physical body. The whole problem of constantly seeing people for their gender is something that has to go from the world.
Why can’t you just look at human beings as they are? Why is it that you have to say “This is a woman, this is a man?” That is only needed for one type of relationship. There is no need to recognize and identify people for their body parts every moment in your life. If you must identify them by body parts, at least let’s choose the brain, not the reproductive organs.
Indiscriminate Love Affairs
People go about saying, “love is the core of the universe.” Love is not the core of the universe. Believe me, love is just a human emotion. It is a human need that two human beings can fulfill for each other. It is a certain sweetness of your emotion that you call as love. Unfortunately, most human beings are able to give that sweetness of emotion only to one person who will provide some physical satisfaction for them, otherwise they cannot open up.
I am deeply involved, engaged and have love affairs with millions of people. I don’t know whether they reciprocate or not. I don’t know whether they like me or not, but I have a fabulous love affair with just about everyone that I see and cannot see, because for me love is not about them, love is about how I am within myself.
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