Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev

Sadhguru says, if you become a source of joy by yourself, you will have wonderful relationships.

Sadhguru: When you live in this world, there are various types of complex interactions happening. As your field-of-play increases, the complexity of interaction also goes on increasing. If you are just sitting in a cubicle, working on your computer with only one other person, you need only a little understanding. But if you are managing a thousand people, you need a vast understanding of everyone. Suppose you are managing a thousand people, and you want all these people to understand you, you are not going to manage anything. You need to understand the limitations and capabilities of these thousand people and do what you can. Only then will you have the power to move the situation the way you want it to go. If you are waiting for these thousand people to understand you and act, it is only a pipe dream, it is never going to happen.

The closer the relationship is, the more effort you should make to understand them. Someone becomes closer and dearer to you only as you understand them better.

The closer the relationship is, the more effort you should make to understand them. Someone becomes closer and dearer to you only as you understand them better. If they understand you, they enjoy the closeness of the relationship. If you understand them better, you enjoy the closeness.

It is not that the other person is totally bereft of understanding. With your understanding you can create situations where the other person would be able to understand you better. If you are expecting the other to understand and comply with you all the time while you don’t understand the limitations, the possibilities, the needs and the capabilities of that person, then conflict is all that will happen. It is bound to happen. Unfortunately, the closest relationships in the world have more conflict going on than between enemies.

The Line of Control

In your relationships, you have fought many more battles than this and are still fighting, isn’t it so? This is because your line of understanding and theirs is different. If you cross the L.O.C., this Line of Control, they will get mad. If they cross it, you will get mad. But if you move your understanding beyond theirs, their understanding also becomes a part of your understanding. You will be able to embrace their limitations and capabilities. In everyone, there are some positive aspects and some negative aspects. If you embrace all this in your understanding you can make the relationship the way you want it. If you leave it to their understanding it will become accidental. If they are very magnanimous, things will happen well for you. If not, the relationship will break up.

Enhance Your Understanding

All I am asking is: do you want to be the one who decides what happens to your life? Whether they are intimate relationships, professional, political, global or whatever, don’t you want to be the person who decides what happens in your life?

You should enhance your understanding to such a point that you can look beyond people’s madness also.

If you do, you should include everything and everyone into your understanding. You should enhance your understanding to such a point that you can look beyond people’s madness also. There are very wonderful people around you, but once in a while they like to go crazy for a few minutes. If you don’t understand that you will lose them. If you do, you know how to handle them. Life is not always a straight line. You have to do many things to keep it going. If you forsake your understanding, your capability will be lost. Whether it is a question of personal relationships or professional management, in both places you need understanding. Otherwise, you will not have fruitful relationships.

The way you are right now, the very quality of your life is decided by the type of relationships you hold. It is better that you make the needed effort to understand the people around you.